29.Jun.2010 Beware! If Your Child is an “Independent Thinker” They May Have “Parental Alienation Disorder”

I finally found the text of what Dr. William Bernet submitted for consideration for inclusion in the DSM-V, the diagnostic bible used by ethical psychologists/psychiatrists and Court Whores alike.   Dr. Bernet and some of the magical “50 professionals” (who all make a significant portion of their income promoting this) were recently at the Denver AFCC (Association of Family and Conciliation Courts – the father’s rights-leaning association for judges and court whores) conference and engaged in debate with Dr. Peter Jaffe and others about the so-called “parental alienation disorder.”  The text below came from that conference.

As one with multiple scientific degrees, I was very interested in seeing the proposal.  I found it to be more of a sales pitch instead of one scientifically driven.  What I found most laughable was on the diagnostic criteria it included “independent thinker phenomenon.”  Yes, it ACTUALLY says this towards the end.   How far out can these court whores reach to bizarro world?  What is scary is that if the DSM-V committee buys this drivel, the court whores and lawyers will be unleashed to destroy children and their families.

This proposal barely mentions that children may be come afraid of a parent because of the actions of that parent.  This includes seeing a parent abuse and beat the other parent, or maybe the child themselves.  The child may be sexually abused by a parent, therefore may not want to be alone with that parent.  Research has shown that the number one reason children refuse to visit a parent is because of the behavior of that parent.

The DSM-V has not been adopted at this point, nor is there any agreement that the following diagnosis should be added.


Proposed Text for Parental Alienation Disorder in DSM-V

DIAGNOSTIC FEATURES

The essential feature of parental alienation disorder is that a child – usually one whose parents are engaged in a high-conflict divorce – allies himself or herself strongly with one parent (the preferred parent) and rejects a relationship with the other parent (the alienated parent) without legitimate justification. The primary behavioral symptom is the child’s resistance or refusal to have contact with the alienated parent (Criterion A).

The behaviors in the child that characterize parental alienation disorder include a persistent campaign of denigration against the alienated parent and weak, frivolous, and absurd rationalizations for the child’s criticism of the alienated parent (Criterion B).

The following clinical features frequently occur in parental alienation disorder, especially when the child’s symptoms reach a level that is moderate or severe (Criterion C). Lack of ambivalence refers to the child’s belief that the alienated parent is all bad and the preferred parent is all good. The independent-thinker phenomenon means that the child proudly states the decision to reject the alienated parent is his own, not influenced by the preferred parent. Reflexive support of the preferred parent against the alienated parent refers to the pattern of the child’s immediately and automatically taking the preferred parent’s side in a disagreement. The child may exhibit a disregard for the feelings of the alienated parent and an absence of guilt over exploitation of the alienated parent. The child may manifest borrowed scenarios, that is, rehearsed statements that are identical to those made by the preferred parent. Also, the child’s animosity toward the alienated parent may spread to that parent’s extended family.

The diagnosis of parental alienation disorder should not be used if the child’s refusal to have contact with the rejected parent is justifiable, for example, if the child was neglected or abused by that parent (Criterion D).

ASSOCIATED FEATURES

Parental alienation disorder may be mild, moderate, or severe. When the parental alienation disorder is mild, the child may briefly resist contact with the alienated parent, but does have contact and enjoys a good relationship with the alienated parent once they are together.

When the parental alienation disorder is mild, the child may have a strong, healthy relationship with both parents, even though the child recites criticisms of the alienated parent.

When the parental alienation disorder is moderate, the child may persistently resist

contact with the alienated parent and will continue to complain and criticize the alienated parent during the contact. The child is likely to have a mildly to moderately pathological relationship with the preferred parent.

When the parental alienation disorder is severe, the child strongly and persistently resists contact and may hide or run away to avoid seeing the alienated parent. The child’s behavior is driven by a firmly held, false belief that the alienated parent is evil, dangerous, or worthless.  The child is likely to have a strong, severely pathological relationship with the preferred parent, perhaps sharing a paranoid worldview.

While the diagnosis of parental alienation disorder refers to the child, the preferred parent and other persons the child is dependent on may manifest the following attitudes and behaviors, which frequently are the major cause of the disorder: persistent criticisms of the rejected parent’s personal qualities and parenting activities; statements that influence the child to fear, dislike, and criticize the alienated parent; and various maneuvers to exclude the rejected parent from the child’s life. The behavior of the preferred parent may include complaints to the police and child protection agencies with allegations about the rejected parent.

Parental alienation disorder may be the basis for false allegations of sexual abuse against the alienated parent. The preferred parent may be litigious to the point of abusing the legal system. The preferred parent may violate court orders that are not to his or her liking. Specific psychological problems – narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, traumatic childhood experiences, and paranoid traits – may be identified in these individuals.  Also, the rejected parent may manifest the following attitudes and behaviors, which may be a minor or contributory cause of the disorder: lack of warm, involved parenting; deficient parenting skills; and lack of time dedicated to parenting activities. However, the intensity and duration of the child’s refusal to have contact with the rejected parent is far out of proportion to the relatively minor weaknesses in the rejected parent’s parenting skills.

Although parental alienation disorder most often arises in the context of a child custody dispute between two parents, it can arise in other types of conflicts over child custody, such as a dispute between a parent and stepparent or between a parent and a grandparent. Sometimes, other family members – such as stepparents or grandparents – contribute to the creation of parental alienation disorder. On occasion, other individuals – such as therapists and child protection workers – contribute to the creation of parental alienation disorder by encouraging or supporting the child’s refusal to have contact with the alienated parent. Also, parental alienation disorder does not necessarily appear in the context of divorce litigation, but may occur in intact families or years following the divorce.

DIFFERENTIAL DIAGNOSIS

It is common for children to resist or avoid contact with the noncustodial parent after the parents separate or divorce. There are several possible explanations for a child’s active rejection of contact. Parental alienation disorder is an important, but not the only, reason that children refuse contact.

In the course of normal development children will become polarized with one parent and then the other depending on the child’s developmental stage and events in the child’s life. When parents disagree, it is normal for children to experience loyalty conflicts. These transitory variationsin a child’s relationship with his or her parents do not meet criteria for parental alienation disorder because they do not constitute “a persistent rejection or denigration of a parent that reaches the level of a campaign.”

If the child actually was abused, neglected, or disliked by the noncustodial parent or the current boyfriend or girlfriend of that parent, the child’s animosity may be justified and it is understandable that the child would not want to visit the rejected parent’s household. If abuse were the reason for the child’s refusal, the diagnosis would be physical abuse of child or sexual abuse of child, not parental alienation disorder. This is important to keep in mind because an abusive, rejected parent may misuse the concept of parental alienation disorder in order to falsely blame the child’s refusal of contact on the parent that the child prefers. In shared psychotic disorder, a delusional parent may influence a child to believe that the other parent is an evil person who must be feared and avoided. In parental alienation disorder, the alienating parent may have very strong opinions about the alienated parent, but is not usually considered out of touch with reality.

When parents separate or divorce, a child with separation anxiety disorder may become even more worried and anxious about being away from the primary caretaker. In separation anxiety disorder, the child is preoccupied with unrealistic fears that something will happen to the primary caretaker, while the child with parental alienation disorder is preoccupied with unrealistic beliefs that the alienated parent is dangerous.

It is conceivable that a child with specific phobia, situational type, might have an unreasonable fear of a parent or some aspect of the parent’s household. A child with a specific phobia is unlikely to engage in a persistent campaign of denigration against the feared object, while the campaign of denigration is a central feature of parental alienation disorder.

When parents separate or divorce, a child with oppositional defiant disorder may become even more symptomatic – angry, resentful, stubborn – and not want to participate in the process of transitioning from one parent to the other. In oppositional defiant disorder, the child is likely to be oppositional with both parents in a variety of contexts, while the child with parental alienation disorder is likely to focus his or her negativism on the proposed contact with the alienated parent and also to engage in the campaign of denigration of that parent.

When parents separate or divorce, a child may develop an adjustment disorder as a reaction to the various stressors related to the divorce including discord between the parents, the loss of a relationship with a parent, and the disruption of moving to a new neighborhood and school. A child with an adjustment disorder may have a variety of nonspecific symptoms including depression, anxious mood, and disruptive behaviors, while the child with parental alienation disorder manifests a specific cluster of symptoms including the campaign of denigration and weak, frivolous rationalizations for the child’s persistent criticism of the alienated parent.

Parent-child relational problem (a V-code) is the appropriate diagnosis if the focus of clinical attention is on the relationship between a child and his or her divorced parents, but the symptoms do not meet the criteria for a mental disorder. For example, a rebellious adolescent may not have a specific mental disorder, but may temporarily refuse to have contact with one parent even though both parents have encouraged him to do so and a court has ordered it. On the other hand, parental alienation disorder should be the diagnosis if the child’s symptoms are persistent enough and severe enough to meet the criteria for that disorder.

DIAGNOSTIC CRITERIA FOR PARENTAL ALIENATION DISORDER

A. The child – usually one whose parents are engaged in a high-conflict divorce – allies himself or herself strongly with one parent and rejects a relationship with the other, alienated parent without legitimate justification. The child resists or refuses contact or parenting time with the alienated parent.

B. The child manifests the following behaviors:

  • a persistent rejection or denigration of a parent that reaches the level of a
  • campaign
  • weak, frivolous, and absurd rationalizations for the child’s persistent criticism of the rejected parent

C. The child manifests two or more of the following six attitudes and behaviors:

(1) lack of ambivalence

(2) independent-thinker phenomenon

(3) reflexive support of one parent against the other

(4) absence of guilt over exploitation of the rejected parent

(5) presence of borrowed scenarios

(6) spread of the animosity to the extended family of the rejected parent.

D. The duration of the disturbance is at least 2 months.

E. The disturbance causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social academic (occupational), or other important areas of functioning.

F. The child’s refusal to have contact with the rejected parent is without legitimate justification. That is, parental alienation disorder is not diagnosed if the rejected parent maltreated the child.

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There are 17 Comments to "Beware! If Your Child is an “Independent Thinker” They May Have “Parental Alienation Disorder”"

  • rj says:

    ERRORS NUMBER ONE and TWO

    “high-conflict divorce ”

    What the fuck does that mean? http://tiny.cc/highconflict

    Amy Baker said parental alienation can occur in NON-DIVORCING families. So, which is it? http://tiny.cc/paexpand …because apparently, parental alienation occurs in ANY situation, under ANY condition, therefore, how is this a disorder?

    And if we don’t know whether this behavior occurred in the “intact” household, it is impossible to judge a child’s behavior with their “preferred parent” which may have ALWAYS existed as such. What motivation does the “alienated” parent have to tell the truth? And why should we believe him/her OVER the other parent?

    Totally stupid.

    “These transitory variations in a child’s relationship with his or her parents do not meet criteria for parental alienation disorder because they do not constitute “a persistent rejection or denigration of a parent that reaches the level of a campaign.””

    How do we know that PA isn’t an “episode”, meaning, it has a specific duration…phase? Oh, that’s right, research has shown that most “pa” resolves naturally in two years…except PA theorists don’t want you to know that because they can’t make enough money if that were the case. That’s why the put this:

    “D. The duration of the disturbance is at least 2 months.”

    That is truly laughable. How many of your own life changing issues can you resolve in TWO MONTHS? (the damn DIVORCE lasts more than TWO MONTHS!!!!) Oh, likely NONE right? You probably need mental help then. Take the blue pill and see me in the morning, please!!!! ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!

    I see nothing age-appropriate in this diagnostic–which should grab most professionals who deal with children as strikingly odd. HOWEVER, remember pa theorists don’t really give a shit about child development, so why would it be included?

    If you claim parental alienation, the psychs will look for it and it will be found. Period. Do a double blind, randomized trial, assholes.

  • Well said! All I can do is get mad reading it, and think of the thousands and thousands of children now with their abusers because of claims of “parental alienation.” I have seen several cases personally where the court whore testified that the children had “parental alienation” yet had never talked to or seen the children, most notably Dr. Warshak’s testimony in a Canadian case that was recently overturned because he hadn’t even talked to the children before recommending them to a quack PAS treatment center. If these court whores wanted to do something productive and ethical, they may try and treat these abusers instead. Of course, there’s more money in acting as a mouthpiece for the abuser, who will pay anything to take the children, because short of actually killing their victim, they know nothing else will hurt them worse than taking the kids from them.

  • rj says:

    Is parental alienation a syndrome or a disorder? Is one more convenient or applicable than the other? We must remember that a disorder ” is thought to cause distress or disability that is not expected as part of normal development or culture.”

    1. If the child is not experiencing any distress or disability, is he/she suffering from a disorder?

    2. If the distress or disability is expected [given the situation: divorce/separation and or child custody dispute], is it a disorder?

    3. If the distress or disability is a part of normal development [for a child] or culture [of (high conflict) divorce], is it a disorder?

    4. If this “is thought” by whom? Who is doing the thinking: the doctor, the parent, the other parent, or the child?

    MAKE UP YOUR FUCKING MIND!

  • rj says:

    Richard Warshak Can Diagnose Parental Alienation without even Interviewing the Child. He has magical powers!!!! http://tiny.cc/warshakpa

    and so does

    John Michael Bone (of Florida)

    in fact, ANYONE can diagnose it. http://tiny.cc/pas4all

    Let’s host some workshops. Whoops, the AFCC has already been doing this, for like at least 10 years!!!

    Maybe we should host workshops in Canada.

    Nope, already done!

    Oh Wait…And Randy Rand, too!

  • rj says:

    Wait a minute. Is Parental Alienation Syndrome kinda like Autism? You know, the definition keeps changing and expanding with so many categories.

    PAS, the new Autism!!!!!

    Can a child be born with parental alienation?

    Can foster children have parental alienation?

    Does abortion prevent parental alienation?

    Will the Real Parental Alienation Please Stand Up? http://tiny.cc/realpas

  • Anita says:

    Its incompetence!! They’re just making up junk to cover up for the real problems …usually that the child has somehow revealed sexual abuse or inappropriate behaviors ….most often the perp is the father or a male familial member or close friend of the family, priest, religious person etc. Scientific stats are clear facts ….to bad Glenn Sacks & his cronys never learned how to do research …& even worse is that politicians jump onto the fraud ….of course there’s alot of voting power from the father supremaicist – pro pedophile pro-abusers org.s !!

    The biggest red flag is that all the involved – pushers have a vested interest ….they gain something – most often its a flow of money! Thats a major problem as it is corruption, the courts should never be guarding, controlling, gaining benefit in any way for or from any litigation ….that is tainting the proceedings! Not to mention that Fathers Rights – Supremacists & their advocates fail to recognize that in the US the Constitution calls for equal treatment in the law, for due process, and for the application of civil rights, also for protection of rights to religious choice. All of which have gone to h— in the recent decades !!! Thank the AFCC & thier power lobbyists that have purchased political favor, enabling them to amass enormous funding ….exempt from accountability. ….WHAT ??? So now the US Gov hands out free money under the guise of promoting responsible fatherhood ….hmmm and Im Ben Frankin. Seems to me that while our men & boys are being sent to Iraq & Afganistan on a hunt for something, & there s talk about the Taliban …..we have an American Taliban growing ….yet we feel no remorse at killing them for what is growing right here in our yard.

    Something is really not right with all of this crap ….Fathers Rights means supremacist, ok to abuse, & to kill. PAS is a cover for pedohilia, incest, & oh yuck sex with animals too; which was created by a pedophile. And they have the audacity to demonize loving – protective mothers. Thats about the utmost of evil and blashemy ….

  • Okay so we only need two of the six criteria for it to be PAS? Well lets see – a fairly intelligent, selfish teenager could fit this bill.

    How many teens do we know who only think of themselves (not purposely just because they are at that age) and use their parents in order to have all the latest toys (Ipod, laptop, etc)?

    No wonder it did not make it into the DSM :-)

  • Ms C Sanderson says:

    Perhaps to further add to the evidenciary list of 2 or more options supporting a diagnosis of child alienation syndrome…… that allow money grubbing child custody assessors or unethical psychologists (read child custody assessors) to further the case of the lawyer or parent who is providing them the most money or business…….we should also add to the list:

    and the groundhog sees its shadow and/or
    the sun is shining and/or
    it is a Monday

    these options have as much as validity in the interest of children and families as the other comic book rationales!!!

    PLEEEASSE tell me there are people out there wiht some sense of reason and purpose who will quash this ridiculous proposal.

    God help us….

  • papsutter says:

    OK, then, I have a new disorder, Disorder disorder. If some FLAKE Psycho- Logist can coin disorders such as ODD, PAD, SPD, SAD, etc. THEN….. I can declare an all inclusive disorder which covers ALL DISORDERS: Disorder disorder. Yeah, just like a trump card- Humans are not perfect, thus we alll have disorder disorder. These devil-sent judges should not be referred to as “Your Honor” but “Your DIS-Honor”. The DIS-Honor creates DIS-ease in the DIS-Family Court. There is NO order in the court, there is DIS-order and DIS-harmony, and DIS-struction…. Disorder Disorder is a condition that exists in the DIS-family Court. Do I make any sense? VIOLENT AND PEDOPHILIC MEN HAVE NO REASON TO LIVE- THEY CANNOT BE REHABILITATED–WHEN THE END OF THE AGE COMES- THE HONORABLE MILITARY WOMEN AND MEN WILL MOST LIKELY EXECUTE THE PEDOPHILES AND LOCK UP THE OTHER ABUSERS FOR GOOD. LORD COME QUICKLY…

  • Greg says:

    What is more laughable is that a 7 year old would state that they are an “independent thinker” when making negative statments towards the target parent and then spend time with the target parent and photos capture that the child is having a great time. The statement made that is negative is not consistent with the photos showing that they are enjoying time with the target alienated parent.

    When a young child states that they are an “independent thinker”, this is above their mental development stage. This then can be tied into borrowed scenarios PROVIDED to then by the alienating parent.

    Parental Alienation is combated by adopting Shared Parenting.

    Supporting Shared Parenting is the Best Interest of the Child.

  • Greg says:

    Defunding VAWA would also greatly assist to adopt Shared Parenting in the Best Interest of the Children

  • Wow Greg, I have to disagree here. I was a child who witnessed my father beat the crap out of my mother in the front yard, being 9 years old at the time. My sister was 7 and my brother was 4. All of us “independently thought” my dad was abusive, as well as the neighbors that witnessed probably did too. (Even as he gained custody of us and ran my mother off). My dad did that “Disneyland Dad” thing too right before he took us from our mother…buying us whatever we wanted, minibikes, etc. Yeah, we were kids that liked the minibikes, etc, but children aren’t that stupid, and for you to imply they are is ignorance on your part. This affected my siblings and I for years and continues to. My dad is a lonely bitter old man now for what he did to our mother, who has passed away now.

    Shared parenting does not work with an abuser. A very large report was just released in Australia, where they have been experiencing the shared parenting disaster ever since it became mandatory. You might read that and gain some insight. There is absolutely nothing wrong with sharing parenting, but wishes of fathers to do this mostly doesn’t happen until after the divorce. If dad took care of the children more, he should have more time with them, if mom took care of them more, she should continue. No parent should run another parent out of the kids lives. Abuse trumps this though. For the sake of children, this should be the standard, not a 50/50 split to placate someone’s desire not to pay child support.

    Shared parenting still does not satisfy abusers, as until they have total control, they are not satisfied. Reference the numerous fathers that have killed their children and themselves lately.

  • Greg says:

    I am sorry you wittnessed your father beating the crap out of your mother in front of the children. The memories of that incident must be painful.

    My ex called in a police report that I too was beating the crap (same words mind you) out of her in front of the children. She frantically sent the children to their rooms in fear that they were next.

    After the police came and arrested me based on their procedure to make an arrest when ever “these types of reports” are called in, my wife at the time recanted her statement and stated that “it was not like her was beating me up”. The Police report capture no bruises, scratches or sign of a struggle.

    My version was that I threw a 1/2 glass of water on her (not the glass, just the water) to prevent her from taking the children in the car while drunk and took my keys from her as she woluld not return my keys when asked 3 times.

    The children’s memories may recall the frantic state that mom was in over getting water on her. NO DV, just a historonic mom that recanted a FALSE REPORT of DV to law enforcement.

    I plead guilty to throwing water on mom and got a violation. Mom skated with no consequences of her FALSE REPORT to law enforcement.

  • Yep, things that happen in front of children can be really traumatic. You shouldn’t have thrown anything….your kids WILL remember that unfortunately. You should have sought help to stop her if there was a danger to the children. Too many people lash out, and that is so harmful to children.

  • defend says:

    it wasn’t a false report==you did throw the water
    she stated according to you that you didn’t physically beat her so where is the false report? Besides many people recant and that does not mean it didn’t happen.

    If she was so drunk the police would have seen it. Why was she leaving with the kids anyways. You make it sounds like she was drunk and decided to take the kids for a ride and you tried to protect the kids.. She stated you took the kids from her–ok how did you manage that when you said you asked 3 times–Did you just reach out and gently take them. The police arrested you.
    The worse thing is you are convince you had no other choice and you are right and you put the blame on her.

  • defend says:

    do you notice that most abusers who claim this to win custody are actually guilty of most of what they claim the protective parent does etc. If this is ever accepted by the APA which won’t be til 2012 at least, so many protective parents will have lost custody because of lawyers who became experts at it (gag) that the lawyer will run out of clients and have to turn to representing the protective parents and use it against the real abusers and than things might turn around and some justice be found.

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